How to Be a Successful Leader at Home

How to Be a Successful Leader at Home

Not all great leaders are great leaders at home.

The same traits needed for a leader at work are needed for leadership at home. After all, you are still leading people; individuals who learn differently, who are motivated differently and who get inspired differently.

1 Timothy 5:8

Leadership starts at home. If you can lead at home you will be successful in other endeavors.

Success will come when you lead with these 6 traits at home.

Lead with Faith

Foremost, when leading use your faith.

Study scripture, learn and pray to know how God desires you to lead. Follow what God says in the Bible to help you make decisions and how to treat those who live with you.

Know how God wants you to act as a Christian (Ephesians 5:1-2) a husband (Ephesians 5:25) and a father (Ephesians 6:4).

Need some additional guidance? Start with the Ten Commandments, the New Commandment (John 13:34), the Great Commission (Matthew 28 19-20), the Fruit of the Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23) and the Beatitudes (Matthew 5:1-12).   

Lead by Example

The most successful leaders lead by example. Great leaders are not afraid to take on the tough jobs and do the hard work. When you do this, your family is more likely to listen and follow your instruction.

Set the rules and boundaries, then show consistency when enforcing them. Make sure you set the example and hold yourself accountable to those same expectations.

Lead with Love

Love takes many forms. Demonstrate your love for your wife and children. Hug them, kiss them, write them notes. Do things for them. Say the words ‘I love you.’ Tell them why you are proud of them.

Sometimes love does not seem like love, like when you must make a difficult choice or when you have to discipline. If discipline is done to help than it is done from love.

Lead with Dignity

Treat everyone equally and allow for their voice to be heard. Learn to be an active listener, hear what someone says, acknowledge and validate them. It is alright to disagree and to debate, but do not belittle or degrade.

Lead with Confidence

A leader must have confidence in the way they lead and in the people they lead. Confidence is built over time. It is earned in small increments with small successes. You can do things to boost your own confidence, like focus on your strengths and to be kind to yourself. Be courageous in decision making. Have confidence in yourself but more so in those you lead.

Lead with Humility 

No person is perfect. Leaders make mistakes, too. Practice humility and understanding. Offer forgiveness to everyone, including yourself. Accept your failures, learn from them, share them with your family, ask for help and forgiveness. Then when a family member needs grace, offer it with humility.  


Your family wants and needs you to lead. Do not shrink away from this duty. God asks you lead and when you do, He will help you.   

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John is a husband, father and teacher. His passion is to help fathers raise their children by sharing his own experiences while following a biblical worldview. Master Lego builder and tea party host. The greatest, most rewarding role a man can have is that of a father.

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